The omnipresent opinion that men think with their „thing“ is not quite right. First of all it must be said that the female orgasm is about 500 times more intensive than the male (the amount of endorphins during a female orgasm), speaks for itself.
That being said, I sometimes hear from my female friends that they are not satisfied with their sex life. The reason for that is simple: The amount and the quality of sex declines throughout time within the relationship.
Many men think of the element „sex“ as being important in the beginning of the relationship. Men are creative, they want their women always and everywhere. Further in the relationship men usually become less motivated for reasons such as a lot of work, less free time or general listless in the bedroom.
Whereas women tend to define the wellbeing of their partnership through the quality of their sex life.
Dude, no matter how challenging your job becomes or how often you have already slept with that one particular woman or whatever other reasons you can think of, there is one thing you gotta understand: if you don’t change the current status quo, you wont be happy.
If you have chosen to stop easy dating to be with that one woman you must take care of the relationship. It was and it will be always your responsibility to shape your life and with that your relationship.
If it is not just a short timed phase in which you have a huge project going on, then you must rethink your choice. If your woman doesn’t make you feel like you must perform the night of your life then either change some aspects of your life to make your body active again or change your woman (harsh, I know). I am not saying that a relationship is built on sex (I am sure that many other aspects are way more important) but if you absolutely don’t wanna have sex with her, then something is terribly wrong.
Cheers and derush