Yet again one of my female friends asked me to post her thoughts.
She wants the female point of view to be represented as well.
Here it is. Enjoy.
Many of my friends are in longterm relationships with their first or second love. Their families get along well, they plan to move in together or live already together. However, one thing is missing…the proposal.
For me, the proposal is one of the most romantic gestures ever. The man who goes on his knees in front of the love of his life, asking her for her hand with the promise to be at her side for ever.
Why should a man want to marry?
Where I come from, men and women marry when they are still very young. A woman who is not married in her late twenties is considered not to be „arrangeable“ any more.
The reasons why women and men want to marry can be different.
The girl wants to keep up the reputation of her family. A relationship longer than two years without a proposal is seen as not right. Girls (usually) do not have sex until they get married.
The men want to start a family for they see in it the beginning of their own way, the whole sense of their life (and they finally want to sleep with the girl they love :))
The question is: What is the point of a marriage in Western cultures?
We live in a sexually liberal society. A couple can do whatever they want. Go for vacation, live together, have one pet. Who needs the annoying and unnecessary fuss of marriage.
The concept of marriage is seen as old-fashioned and outworn. A man rather keeps his freedom and the possibility to flee a not working relationship.
Where are the romanticists among the men. We live in times of tinder, friendscout and countless other humiliations that have destroyed romance. Don’t you like her any more, no problem, swipe right and within 500 meters there is the next one.
The big romantic gesture is considered weakness. We don’t get any flowers, he doesn’t wait under your balcony just to see you and say good night, and a love letter is just a relict from passed times that you can see in a museum for ancient arts.
Love has been converted to a chess game. If she makes a move, I will make a move. If not, the game comes to a halt. After all there are so many playmates out there.
Romanticists mutated to egoists. They are not willing to accept compromises whatsoever. Their demands, their wishes, their freedom – that is what counts for them.
Wake up, men!
Fight for your women. Don’t hide behind the concept of the „modern man“.
Be the example for your gender!”